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How to juggle the personal and professional online

by Margie Clayman

As you may or may not know, every Saturday night at 9 PM EST, Stanford Smith and I co-host an informal chat called #Tweetdiner on Twitter. The goal is help people get used to Twitter and Twitter chats and also to answer questions that have been bothering people throughout the week. We have fun, too, I’ll have to admit.

Last night’s chat began with a tremendous question from my new friend @Veola_JustAsIAm. She asked whether she should have two Twitter accounts, one for personal use and one for professional use. This created quite the conversation, so I thought I would round up some thoughts here and see if we can continue this important conversation beyond the realm of #Tweetdiner.

Brand Symbiosis

Amber Naslund just published a post this week that she called Brand Symbiosis: Balancing Personal and Professional Online. In this post, Amber talks about the fact that in the online world, it’s nearly impossible to separate our professional selves from our personal selves. In fact, these portions of our personality (along with others) help feed each other – hence the symbiosis. We are able to enrich our professional persona by humanizing ourselves (with personality). SpamBots do not tend to be very personable once you get to know them. Our personal selves are enriched by the learning and sharing that we do as our professional selves.

A million and one questions

Brand symbiosis is probably how I would characterize what I try to do via my blog and my Twitter account. I’ll have fun, I’ll joke around, I certainly talk about things not business-related. But I also never forget where I am. I act and talk as if I was visiting a client, because, let’s be honest, it’s entirely possible that your existing and future clients are seeing everything you’re saying and doing anyway.

Where this gets complicated is when you get down to the tiny details that go into making an online persona that don’t often get discussed a lot in general conversations. Here are some questions that might be bothering you if you are trying to balance your professional and your personal life online.

Should my avatar/Twitter background/Blog bio show pictures of my family and me, or should it just be a professional picture of me smiling?

Should I list my faith in my Twitter bio and in my blog background or should I leave it out?

Should I comment on this or that political situation or should I censor portions of what I really believe?

Should I divulge that I am having health problems (or had them in the past) or should I keep that to myself?

And the questions go on and on, right back to Viola’s question. Should I have two Twitter accounts and two blogs so that I can get all of my thoughts out there?

How would you introduce yourself in a crowded room?

Your Twitter account or your blog – they’re kind of like going around shaking hands in a really crowded room. So let’s say you’ve gone to BlogWorld and there’s a tweet-up there. As you’re going around shaking hands, what do you say? Do you say, “Hi, I’m Sally and I’m a mom of three?” Do you say, “Hi, I’m Bob, and I’m the CMO for xyz corporation?” If you are using Social Media on a professional basis, the expectation is not (or in my opinion should not be) that we will get to know you like a best friend. The expectation is that ultimately, you’re out here trying to make money and grow your business, whatever that may be.

In the end, like everything else, the answers to all of these questions that come up will have to be answered based on what you want to accomplish. Because I work for a family-owned agency, and because the family owning the agency is my family, I feel responsible for being my best self out here in the online world. I don’t talk about religion or politics anywhere in my online reality even though I love discussing both. I don’t use swear words online (I’ll plead the fifth on whether I hold to that in real life). I don’t reserve those portions of my personality for a more personal account, because ultimately, it would get traced back to me here, I believe. I talk to you here as I would talk to you if you called me when I’m at work.

What works for you?

Ironically, how you choose to handle the balance of professional and personal is a personal decision only you can make. If you feel like censoring oneself is inauthentic, then don’t do it. If you feel like your religious beliefs are essential to an understanding of how you do business, then you need that there.

There is just one caution I’d toss out there if you choose to run multiple accounts. The chances are that there will be some overlap in the people who follow you and interact with you. Be prepared for the personal account to still have some impact on some of the people tied to your professional account. This online world – it’s fluid, and it’s easy to move from one place to another.

How are you approaching the balance between personal and professional? What questions are standing in front of you that you’d like to discuss? Let’s talk about them here!

image by Jan Willem Geertsma. http://www.sxc.hu/profile/jan-willem

Filed Under: Musings

how to use your name as a keystone

by Margie Clayman

You’ve probably heard or seen the word “community” a lot if you’ve been hanging around the Social Media world. Well, today, we’re going to do something a little different. We’re going to envision your community building as the building of an arch instead of a little town. If you picture an arch, you have 2 legs, a left and right, and they come together at one central stone, the keystone. The keystone locks everything into place.

Building a Social Media community means that you are going to a lot of different sites or registering your name in a lot of places. So the left side of your community arch may be your blog, your Twitter account, your Facebook page – things having to do directly with you. Let’s call the right-hand leg your traveling leg. This would be your registration with commenting sites like Disquis and LiveFyre, your inclusion in someone else’s Facebook group, or just general comments that you leave on someone else’s blog.

One thing it’s really important to have in all of these instances is a name – an identifier. And that’s what we’re going to call your keystone.

Why is your name so important?

Let’s take a hypothetical situation. Let’s say you have a blog that you call, oh, I don’t know, “Sunny Puppy Daisy Blog.” All of the blog posts show the author’s name (you) as Sunny Puppy. So, you’re blogging away and you leave a really nice mention of someone in your post. That person sees it and leaves you a really nice comment. The interacting, for them, is with someone who is going by the name Sunny Puppy. Now, let’s say based on the person’s nice comment on your post, you go find them on Twitter. They don’t follow you back right away. On Twitter, your name is Daisy Jackson. Guess what? That person you interacted with on your blog? They have no idea who you are on Twitter. It’s now taking extra time and effort to help that person become a part of your over-arching community because you have to explain to them who you are.

Now extrapolate this across all of the different channels you use. What name did you give yourself for Disqus? Are you engaging bloggers who then have no idea how to find your blog? Do you have different names for your Digg and StumbleUpon handles? How can anyone get to know you when they’re never 100% sure that you are you? It can get to be a pretty big problem.

Getting to know you, Getting to know all about you

There are millions upon millions of people tweeting and blogging and Facebooking these days, so sticking out and getting attention can be pretty difficult. To better your odds, make it easy for people to recognize you as you are walking down the various “streets” of the Social Media world. Help people connect the dots so that they see that you’re that person who wrote the really great comment and you’re also the person who tweeted that really interesting study. Help someone who gets to know you primarily through Twitter get to know you better via your blog or via your comments on their blogs. Help people build a relationship with just you rather than building relationships with six different versions of you.

If you don’t like the mushy community talk…

This advice can also help you if you are using Social Media for business. It is not the be-all or end-all of branding, but it certainly helps get your company’s name out there. If you say something useful on Twitter using your corporate account, you want people to be able to attribute that to you, then tie it to your related blog post. Your name, one of your common features across all channels, will help lock people in on both legs of your community arch.

A rose by any other name

So what is your name situation? If you comment here, will I be able to find you with ease elsewhere? Will it be easy for me to continue to build my relationship with you as I see your name popping up in different places, or will you become another face in the crowd beyond the walls of this space right here? Is your keystone in place?

How can I help you set that all important block that will lock the different parts of your community building efforts together? Just let me know.

Filed Under: Marketing Talk

My Social Media All Star Team

by Margie Clayman

So I posted last week that I would be taking nominations for Social Media MVPs, but times are busy, and while I got a few very very nice responses, it was nowhere near 100.

Well, not one to be diverted by minor details, I am just going to go ahead and give you a list of some people that I think are all stars in the Social Media space. Alphabetical order so that no one says, “Ohh, why was that person named first.”Hopefully, this inspires you to read some blogs you’ve never read or follow some people on Twitter you’ve never followed. It’s all about paying it forward, after all.

So, here are 34 people who are on my All Star Team. Who is on your team? Maybe we could make a game of it 🙂 [Read more…] about My Social Media All Star Team

Filed Under: Marketing Talk

The Meaning of Follow Friday

by Margie Clayman

Today is Friday, which means that on Twitter, a lot of people are posting names and then putting an #ff after those names. You’ll also see, very likely, a lot of chatter about what to do on or with “Follow Friday.”

The more I see this chatter, the more it makes me think that Follow Friday is one of those things in the online world that can create great feelings or hurt feelings. It can be used really effectively or it can be abused. So, since I have a bit of time today, I thought I’d take a moment to talk to you about this whole phenomenon.

Follow Friday matters to new people

I don’t know about you, but when I had reached, oh, about my 2-month marker on Twitter, I really came to dread Follow Friday. Why? Well, once I finally figured out what it meant (I suggest that you start to follow this person’s tweets), it seemed to be just another reminder of how insignificant I was in the online world. Nobody, and I mean nobody, mentioned me on Friday. Ever. I even remember making a quip about it. “Which will happen first? Will I get hit by lightning or mentioned on Follow Friday?” I was that frustrated, that discouraged. Luckily, no one responded to that tweet!

I didn’t know a whole lot of people at that time, so I would always mention folks who I really did appreciate, like Jay Baer and Ann Handley. One week, I mentioned a person and a bit later in the day I saw them tweeting about how much they hate Follow Friday. That was REALLY discouraging. Not only was I not getting mentioned, but in mentioning other people, I was apparently just creating misery. Awesome, right?

It seemed to me like Follow Friday was a way to recognize a person’s efforts. It mattered to me that I wasn’t being mentioned. It mattered to me that other people in my stream were retweeting every time they were getting mentioned. I felt bad. I have not forgotten that feeling.

Some problems with Follow Friday

There is a really good sentiment behind Follow Friday, but there are a lot of pitfalls with it too. I didn’t understand these pitfalls when I was new, so I thought I would outline what I’ve learned.

A lot of people do what I did. They mention big big names in the Twitter-verse. This causes a lot of problems. First, it’s really hard for those folks to respond to every single person who mentions them on a normal day. On Friday, they are likely completely buried. Second, if they thank 1 person but not another, that second person is going to feel even worse. And of course, if you are super new, these really big names aren’t going to know who you are. Follow Friday can look a lot like name dropping. If you say, “#FF @problogger @copyblogger @chrisbrogan @notsethsblog & @jasonfalls, and if you do that consistently, it’s going to just not have the desired effect.

A lot of people mindlessly retweet every time they’re mentioned, which really clutters it up. As an example, let’s say that someone tweets out a big long list of names for Follow Friday, and one of them is me. Now let’s say I just retweet that. That means that alllll of those people on that list are a) perhaps going to retweet my retweet and b) they’re going to assume that I know them and also am recommending them. This is not always the case, I’d wager. I think a lot of people just like to retweet when they are mentioned on Friday. If your name is with them, then you luck out.

Follow Friday is also hard because it’s hard to please everyone. If you list a dozen people in one tweet, person 13 may feel like he or she is left out. If you include that person, someone else may wonder why they didn’t make the cut that week.

These are all reasons why Follow Friday has kind of left a bad taste in different peoples’ mouths.

And e’er the twain shall meet

So if on the one hand Follow Friday can be really meaningful to a new person yet really annoying to other people, what can we do about it?

Here are some tips for you. Maybe you have more ideas to share – let me know!

I really like the way that Tristan Bishop (@knowledgebishop) does his Follow Friday mentions. Rather than just listing a bunch of names, Tristan takes the time to individually tweet about a handful of people. He tells his followers why he appreciates that person and why he recommends that other people follow that person. You can really tell that he is being genuine, and if you are lucky enough to get mentioned by him, it really brightens your day.

Suggest someone that seems to be having a hard time with Twitter but is definitely working hard at it. Knowing that someone is seeing their dedication and appreciating it can make a HUGE difference.

Make lists of people throughout the week if you want. Keep track of posts that made you laugh out loud, or people who said really insightful things during a chat. Come back on Friday and instead of just saying #ff, link to that person’s blog post (the specific one you liked). Make it a double win for them.

Most importantly, don’t feel like you have to do a Follow Friday tweet. If you are doing things right, people in your community know that you appreciate them and they know exactly why. If you can’t put a genuine feeling behind your #ff sentiment, or if you are worried about leaving something out, don’t do it. Nobody will call he Karma police on you and say, “Oh man, look at that non-Follow-Friday-er!” I promise.

Does that help?

Image by Sachin Ghodke. http://www.sxc.hu/profile/sachyn

Filed Under: Marketing Talk

What do I know about you?

by Margie Clayman

Don’t you hate it when someone who isn’t really involved in “Social Media stuff” says that it’s just so narcissistic? You try to say, “Well, no, it’s about sharing and giving information, and…and…” You have all kinds of answers, right?

So let me ask you a question.

If I go to your Twitter account or your blog page right now, what will I think I know about you?

It’s something perhaps we in this space don’t think a lot about. We think about how we want to project ourselves. We think about what we are putting out there. But maybe we need to approach it differently on occasion. What are others seeing? What are people “getting” if they don’t have the full context of our brains and souls in mind?

Here are some questions. Let me know how you think I or someone else would answer these about, well, you.

What does your picture say about you? What do I “know” if I look at your avatar? Are you an egg in front of a pastel background? Do you not take yourself seriously enough to put a real picture in there? Are you a happy person? Kind of distant? Do I know if you’re male or female?

What does your bio say about you? What do I know about you after reading your bio on your blog or on Twitter? Do I know where you work and what you do? Do I not know anything because there’s nothing there? Are you hiding something? Do I think that you are extremely religious? Do I think that you care about baseball more than what you are tweeting about?

What do your tweets say about you? Do your tweets tell me that you are a vulgar person who swears a lot? Do I think you are not really serious about your work? Do you seem to watch television more than working your job? Do you want to talk with me, to me, or at me? Am I worried about working with you because you seem too goofy or childish, or am I afraid of you because you seem confrontational or snobby? Or do I think we’re on the way to creating a strong friendship?

What does your blog say about you? Do I know what you are passionate about? Does it look like you take the time to proofread and do a spellcheck? Do I think you are phoning it in, or do I think you are working your butt off? Do I think you love your job or hate it? Do I know what you are trying to do?

If you didn’t know you, what would you think? What do you think you know about other people? Have you found out that you’re right? Have you found out that you’re wrong?

Do I know all of the wrong things about you?

What are you going to do about it?

Let’s talk it over.

Filed Under: Musings

Do you have SMMPD?

by Margie Clayman

You’re sitting at your computer staring at Twitter, and you’re thinking, “Hmm. I can count the responses on my @ page with half a hand. I don’t even need all five of my fingers for this.” You’re trying to figure out what the problem is. You’ve read everything out there about how to tweet. You’re keeping your tweets to 120 characters so that there’s room for people to retweet you. You’re posting links to interesting articles. You’re trying to talk to people. But it just doesn’t seem to be working. So you decide that it must be your persona, or your user handle, or some combination of the two, that’s holding you back. You’re going to start again, and this time you’ll keep a certain tonality through all of your tweets. You’ll update your avatar to really seal the deal!

You, my friend, are on the way to a serious ailment called Social Media Multiple Personality Disorder, or SMMPD.

I’m not just blogging about SMMPD, I’m also a survivor

You are not alone in heroically fighting this acronym of an ailment. I’ve had about as bad a case as doctors have ever seen. Over the last year, I’ve had:

4 different Twitter handles

3 different blog sites & URLs

2 different Facebook accounts

And I’m not even going to talk about my partridge in a pear tree.

This is serious, folks.

Now the nice thing about SMMPD is that it is a very preventable burden. You just need to put in a little time.

Start before you start

Do you remember the big 80s anti-drug war call, “Stop before you start?” If you’re too young to remember that, please don’t tell me. Anyway, to avoid Social Media Multiple Personality Disorder, you actually need to start before you start.

Start what, you might well ask, as well you should.

You need to start thinking about what exactly you’re going to be doing. You need to have a game plan. You need to have some X’s and O’s laid out.

I know, this can be a real buzz kill. You’re ready to jump on the Twitter and blogging bandwagon, right? But hey, look what happened to me. Do you want to admit, one year from now, that you went through 4 different Twitter handles? I would think not.

So, let’s talk about things you can plan in advance. These are things I really wish I would have thought about at least a little bit before signing into Twitter hastily during a lunch break (true story).

What are you hoping to achieve? When I started that first Twitter account, I had the very loosy goosy, not 100% honest objective of “seeing what Twitter was about so that we could discuss it with our clients.” That was part of my goal, but that’s not really something to shoot for. As a result, my tweets were scattered, not very personal, and probably were kind of boring. My blog? I had less of a plan for that. What do you really want out of Twitter? Or if you’re tweeting for business, maybe the better question to ask is what actually need from Twitter. What do you want your blog to do for you? Don’t say, “Oh, I just want to write.” Really think about it.

How are you going to achieve those goals? Your goals will create a path for you, but you can still decide how you want to travel on that path. Some people just walk on the path – their tweets might be straight-laced for the most part, very professional, very business-oriented, perhaps. Other people might run – they want to reach their objectives as quickly as possible. Still others might choose to skip or hop on foot. How are you going to travel on the path you’ve set for yourself?

Who are you? This probably seems like either a really deep and existential question or a really simple question. Either way you slice it, you need to know how you want other people to be able to answer this question. It doesn’t really matter how you answer it, right? You already know you. You already know your company. If you ask someone a year from now, “Based on my tweets or on my blog, who do you think I am? What kind of person am I?” what kind of answer do you want to get?

This is just the beginning of what you need to start on before you actually start tweeting or blogging. Now, don’t panic if you’ve already started tweeting and blogging. Take a step back, invest in some time to answer these questions, and then see if you want to stay on the path you’re on or if you want to move on over to another one. Changing once is “finding yourself.” Changing as much as I did is when you need to see your Social Media physician.

What I did wrong

So how did I end up with SMMPD?

Simple. I didn’t start before I started the first time, the second time, or the third time. I jumped from one idea to another without really thinking about the ramifications. I didn’t have a compass. I didn’t even have a destination. I was just loafing about, hoping that something I would say would magically become viral. Viral in a good way, not in an “Ew” kind of way. Guess what? It didn’t work.

Now let’s talk about you

Are you worried that you might be showing signs of SMMPD? Are you feeling that itch to change your name or move your blog or create a whole new online persona for yourself? Before you jump into something new, let’s talk about it. Why are you feeling the need to change? Have you thought about ways to achieve your goals based on where you are now?

Talk to me. Let’s prevent SMMPD.

Image by Benjamin Earwicker. http://www.sxc.hu/profile/bjearwicke

Filed Under: Marketing Talk

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