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The Colonoscopy Principle

December 2, 2011 by Margie Clayman 10 Comments

It just keeps coming up over and over again.

No, not Kim Kardashian’s faux marriage.

No, not my lunch.

This topic of being human online.

What does that mean, anyway? I mean, you’re a human, right? Oh, hi, Google bot and spam bot.

What was I saying again?

Look, the bottom line is that you and I need to talk about this thing that keeps coming up. To wit, we need to talk about this whole “being human online” thing.

There seems to be a pretty clear divide in the online world on how to handle this issue. On the one end of the spectrum you have what I call the “Don’t Know Me Folk.” These are people who really feel that they are online to promote their business or their brand, and that is what they are going to do. Do they have 3 ears? Five kids? Seventeen chihuahuas? We have no idea, and we’ll likely never find out. For these people, personal and professional mix like the acids in my tummy when I see those BP Gulf Coast commercials. Burny.

Now, on the other end of the spectrum we have the folks who I like to call “The Colonoscopites.” In other words, they embody what I have coined as the Colonoscopy Principle. With these people, nothing is too personal. Do you want to hear about their history of sexual escapades? Done. Maybe you’d like to see live video of their kid being born. No problem. Tweet that link! For these folks personal IS professional, whether that’s because they think it’s good for their bottom line or because that’s just the way they are.

I find myself somewhat in between the “Don’t see me Folks” and the Colonsocopites. As is so often the case, I am in the undefined grey area. But for me, it has always come down to a question of personable, not personal. So, for example, consider the following.

Writing a blog post about a general experience everyone can easily relate to – good!

Writing a blog post about your various levels of stuffed nose – not so good.

Writing a blog post about a life-changing event for the good of others – good!

Writing a blog post about something so personal that your readers want to gouge their eyes out with spoons – not so good.

It can most certainly be a complex line. After all, a stuffed up and/or runny nose is something we all can relate to, but it’s a matter of degrees. Giving the general idea can be okay. Talk of consistency and color, not so much. It’s a judgment call.

How to use the Colonoscopy Principle

So here is how I generally figure out this whole “being human online” thing. You can feel free to agree or disagree, of course.

Consider everyone in the online world a potential employer or customer, even if you aren’t using social media for business. Someone ALWAYS knows someone. Over the course of one year on Facebook I’ve met two people online who ended up knowing people from my personal life. It’s just crazy! So, whenever you’re blogging or tweeting or facebooking, consider whether you would tell a customer or an employer what you are about to say. In the blogging scenario, also bear in mind that your blog post may be your first introduction to people. Think about how you introduce yourself to others. Do you say, “Hi, my name is XYZ and I’d like to tell you about how I was mentally disturbed from ages 27-33!”? Do you wave to someone across the street who just moved into your neighborhood and confess that you cheated on your spouse by way of greeting?

Let’s hope not.

The same logic applies for here in digital-verse. I want to get to know you, so the all professional all the time thing doesn’t really work for me. I want to be able to picture you as a living entity not attached to an electronic device. Call me weird (but not too often). However, I also don’t want to feel like I need to have a frontal lobotomy after reading your stuff. Unless your blogsite is something like confessionalbooth.com, which I would probably not visit anyway, your readers are probably not expecting an eye-full and brain-full when they go to read a post of yours.

In other words, posting pictures of your most recent colonoscopy may be a turn-off.

Writing about why people should get a colonoscopy – good stuff.

At least that’s the way I see it. Maybe you can prove me wrong.

Incidentally, this post is dedicated to Mark Schaefer, who wrote a post about being human which inspired me to comment which inspired him to dare me to write this post. Online friends are dangerous!

Image Credit: http://www.flickr.com/photos/ex_magician/5708940116/ via Creative Commons

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  1. Brankica says

    December 2, 2011 at 10:10 pm

    Love it 🙂 I think I am in the middle, I do let people to see who I really am but at the same time I try to keep some things private. Does that count 🙂

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    • bdorman264 says

      December 3, 2011 at 8:54 am

      @Brankica Ha, you open book…………………:). You do keep it in the middle of the road for the most part. You let people in just enough to get to know you on a personal level, but not deep enough you want to share the details about that ingrown toenail you had…………:).

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      • Brankica says

        December 3, 2011 at 12:18 pm

        @bdorman264 haha do not mention ingrown toenails, I’ve never had one but a friend of mine did and had to go to a surgery and since them I am more afraid of getting one of those, than running into a devil on a bad day hahahha

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  2. JosephGier says

    December 2, 2011 at 11:05 pm

    I think you need to strike an balance between advocacy of something and an overshare. The latter is actually an example of something that veers a little left of center. I do like your example of colonoscopy as an object lesson. Advocacy is great and the need for having the procedure done is vital (i recently had one, BTW) and posting a photograph as an overshare and grpahic (no pun intended). A balance in all things even disclosure such as these need to be thoughtful and finessed. Great post! Thank you

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  3. jburdadams says

    December 3, 2011 at 5:43 am

    yep. somewhere in between is good for me too. i started out exploring the commercial aspect of Twitter/blogging but ended up enjoying it for the information value. haven’t really found my niche yet but appreciate the contact with real folks like you! as usual, informative, thought-provoking post Margie.

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  4. bdorman264 says

    December 3, 2011 at 8:52 am

    If I would say it in public, then I would probably print it as well. However, and I have been kicked in the leg by the wife a time or two, sometimes I might get too personal. But that’s me for the most part, I’m somewhat of an open book and if you ask me something I will just tell you.

    Having said that, there is common sense involved and I don’t think I will post about my prep day for the colonoscopy and what all that entailed, in minute detail.

    There are certainly all kinds in the crazy world of social though; just like life, huh?

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    • Brankica says

      December 3, 2011 at 12:18 pm

      @bdorman264 Aren’t you happy your wife isn’t in the military, wearing the boots, lol.

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  5. NancyD68 says

    December 3, 2011 at 9:32 am

    I share the things that are relevant or that I think may help someone else. I do not share every detail of my life. Some friends know that some other things went on this past week as well, and that issue stayed off social media entirely. (I did text a few friends about it and that was that)

    There are some things that need not be said online.

    I am of the belief that if I would not say it in mixed company, it does not belong on Facebook or Twitter or my blog.

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  6. Chris_Eh_Young says

    December 3, 2011 at 9:55 am

    Social media is about authenticity and transparency but beware of the truth. That’s where danger lurks.

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  7. jolewitz says

    December 3, 2011 at 3:15 pm

    Margie, thanks for another very important contribution to the digital-verse – you can always be counted on to stir it up. I love everything you said and wouldn’t try to improve on your words, however, I would like to add something equally important about who else might be out there whether friends of friends, business contacts, potential employer or customer.

    Don’t forget that in time (a year, two, five, twenty, or more) that statement will still live on the internet and a whole new generation of others may be exposed to it.

    JOSEPH

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